So you have a sexual fantasy?
Fantasy in the bedroom can be achieved through a number of things. You can talk about your sexual fantasies with each other during pillow talk to get aroused or you can go one step further and try to bring that fantasy alive in a safe environment by dressing up and role playing with each other. This can be something as easy and simple as wearing seductive lingerie or dressing up in costumes to play out some sexual fantasy one partner has.
This type of sexual fantasy can lead to better sex and reignite passion into your relationship. It can create new erotic energy between a you, and further enhance your relationship intimacy. Routine sex can loose it’s emotional connection. You may rediscover your passion just like it was in the honeymoon phase of the relationship. But more importantly than just a playful shag, it can be a “tool” and a “toy” for calibrating your sexual and emotional desires. Modern day couples are looking for more than the missionary. It’s the 50 shades era and couples are exploring their sexual relationship.
Alongside these modern times, we are struggling to maintain our intimate connections. Technology has found it’s way into all hours of our attention span. Nowadays it’s pretty easy to skip the meaningful connections we might make if we weren’t as preoccupied. Sharing a sexual fantasy together will remind you that some things are sacred. Special occasions are wonderful ways to spend meaningful time together. A weekend long rendezvous with your lover is a welcome way to practice connecting with each other.
Fantasy in between the sheets can entail a lot of things and can even be as simple as using sex toys. And when it comes to sex toys, the category is vast. Although many stick to simply using a vibrator, dildo or something else, the category seems small and the options limited. But if you think about it, there are a lot of things one could choose when it comes to toys. As long as the toy helps you climax, makes you feel good and helps connect you sexually with your partner, it’s a great tool in the bedroom. Role play fantasies are just another sex toy you might not have tried yet.
How To Share Your Fantasies With Your Partner
Although having sexual fantasies can enhance and benefit one’s relationship with their partner or spouse, many don’t always find it easy to communicate them. They are either too shy to talk about them, too ashamed or embarrassed of what the other might think or don’t believe it will do anything for their relationship. Instead of speaking up and sharing their fantasies, many would rather stay quiet and have a mundane sex life.
But you shouldn’t let your fears stop you from talking about your sexual fantasies with your partner. Although you might be met with some reluctance or refusal, when you open the dialogue regarding sexual fantasies, you can start talking about things both of you wouldn’t mind engaging in even if it is not what you initially wanted. Who knows, your partner can in turn open up to you about their sexual fantasies and you can compromise on some middle ground!
To bring up the subject, try to find the right time to talk about it and choose a way that feels safe to you. It might be during a movie that you’re watching if you want to try something similar or commenting on an erotic book you’ve just read. Or maybe you’d rather talk about it as you’re getting ready for sex to see where the conversation leads. Whatever the case, choose a time and place that makes you feel comfortable so that you’re not feeling stressed or anxious.
Make sure you ask your partner that they hear you out and that they refrain from judgment until you’ve fully explained your fantasy and why you think it will benefit your relationship. Explain how you’re feeling about your sexual life and how important it is that they participate in the fantasy with you. Mention how you find them sexy and want them to be a part of your sexual arousal, as well as how you feel safe talking about your deepest desires with them.
So don’t be afraid to talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner and don’t feel ashamed to have them. Fantasy in the bedroom can really enhance your relationship and bring the excitement back to sex. It’ll help you reconnect with your partner and will bring about more sexual arousal for the both of you.