You don’t need to be a marriage counsellor to understand that many couples struggle with sexual and emotional intimacy within their relationship.
What many couples don’t know is how this lack of intimacy can foster a wide range of symptoms that can make your relationship a challenge. Learning to communicate and facilitate intimacy is where many counsellors are doing their work.
My wife and I have not been to any relationship counselling to date. Yet we have managed to overcome many of our own symptoms that are common among all long-term relationship struggles. How did we manage this ourselves? Well, it’s been a learning process that has helped to manage many more relationship challenges than I had ever thought.
I am a very happily married man, and like all relationships, we have ups and downs. We have lessons we learn about each other and ourselves and welcome or not; they teach us to grow together as long as we stay committed to our relationship.
One of our earlier lessons was how important it is to communicate with each other. I was never willing to express my feelings to my new wife, and it took her years of prying me until I finally grew into someone that communicates with their partner when something needs to be voiced. This lesson is a game-changer when it comes to relationship growth and maintenance. One particular frustration that I was unable to communicate with my partner was my sexual frustration. While almost every other aspect of our marriage is a perfect fit, I had a high sex drive, and she did not.
For several years we struggled to find a solution to sexual unsatisfaction and low libido. It was hard on our partnership and overshadowed our daily life regularly. Eventually, we overcame our obstacle and found a satisfying balance of regular sex. Years later I realized that there is something else I needed to communicate. You see sex had become well… regular. Routine and less emotional. I began to wonder if my sexual prime had peaked at our earlier stages of dating and now I would never get a sexy striptease again. My wife is beautiful and arousing. She is my best friend and partner. Since I would never go outside of my marriage, I had to bring the seduction and charged emotions back into our relationship or face saying goodbye to the good old days of hot sex.
And out of necessity for great sex and emotional foreplay, FANTASY WEEKENDS became my special invitation to making sex more fun. And from that point forward our emotional connection, physical attraction, trust, and understanding all elevated to a higher level that solidifies our bond.
I’ll be totally honest with you and say that it wasn’t all sparks and flame in the beginning. We experienced incremental difficulties that we talked our way through, and we both grow forward together. Role-play fantasies can help develop that growth forward.
If you’ve tried role-play before, you might agree with me that sex doesn’t always match the ideas in your head. Awkward moments and little or no communication are the butts of all role-play comedies. It seems to me that role-play has the current stigma of being reserved for the geeky or disaster bound. I needed a creative way to keep awkward moments and disasters at bay while we headed into this uncharted romance. In our experience, it became clear to me that while I tried to plan everything, shared fantasies need to be planned and participated together to be truly appreciated. That is the goal of Fantasy Weekends.
We want to show couples a fun way to explore your sexual desires and calibrate them together into a satisfying sexual and emotional bond.
FANTASY WEEKENDS role-play scenarios are not like other scenarios you have tried before. We are not just handing out a scene to perform. The current platform of FANTASY WEEKENDS is that the female partner will introduce herself in 10 or fewer lingerie costumes. These costume introductions are the cast of characters in your next 10 FANTASY WEEKENDS scenarios. The roles introduced in “50 Ways To Seduce A Lover” are your starting point to what kind of character each role becomes. For some “Vicky” is a dominating BDSM lover. Others will only take “Vicky” to be a rebel with tattoos. Together you will develop each role into your own character as you take a tour of our fantasy scenarios.
Each FANTASY WEEKEND is your opportunity to explore your sexual and emotional connection in a safe and loving manner.
If bringing up a sexual fantasy with your partner sounds like something you would like to do but are scared about how it will go, don’t worry. I’m here to help you and share my experiences. Maybe you are not interested in sexual fantasy but would like to develop a stronger sense of intimacy between each other. I hope this blog can help add some insight into developing a more satisfying emotional bond.