As a couple, it is normal for you to have intensive feelings towards each other especially at the initial stages of the relationship. However, as time goes by, you might start feeling as if the love is fading away. This is why some years in marriage, serious issues such as consistent fighting over small issues arise and if not put in check, it might lead to divorce. On the other hand, there are couples who manage to keep the romance alive and stick together even in old age. So, how do you connect with your partner emotionally after all this time?
Here are the top 5 suggestions on how to connect emotionally:
1. Exercise, play or engage in fun activities together
There is a sense of connection and unity that comes with having a common goal. Whether you want to lose weight or just keep fit, having a common goal will help you connect emotionally with your partner and result into major milestones in the relationship. Find something that you both love doing and then do it together. To make it more fun, you can develop a habit of rewarding each other for the small achievements made. For example, if you play a game, the winner can be rewarded with a kiss or something more affectionate. This will help you rekindle the old flames that were fading away.
2. Try something new together
Do you have a bucket list? If yes, you can pick out an item at random and do it together with your partner. There is that thrill that comes with experiencing something new, and doing it together will bring you closer to each other and make the relationship stronger. This will help you connect emotionally with your partner by building trust. So, what are you waiting for? Get up, dress up and go take that roller coaster ride with your partner – and while at it don’t forget to let go and scream your all.
3. Communicate and learn – express your likes and dislikes
In every relationship, communication is vital. Sometimes people lose touch and feel disconnected because they feel like their partner “doesn’t get them” or doesn’t understand them. In the end, couples who looked promising end up breaking up and hurting each other; something which could have been prevented if they had communicated with each other. It is advisable to regularly sit down with your partner and talk to them. Let them know what you like what you dislike; doing this will help you establish a strong emotional connection since you will understand each other at a deeper level. Instead of just keeping quiet and expecting your partner to notice that they hurt you, communicate with them and let them know exactly what they did wrong so you can both deal with it and move on.
4. Do something to build appreciation
When it comes to relationships, it’s the little things that matter the most. That said, it is advisable to always be grateful to your partner even for the little things they do. If he remembered to take out the garbage, you can give him a small reward. The best and most encouraged gifts are sexual rewards since they also build stronger emotional connections. However, physical rewards such as buying her jewelry when she least expects it or going for a surprise dinner or surprise date are also a good way to connect emotionally.
5. Make time for private activities just the two of you
Having some private time just away from distractions is a good way to encourage emotional connection. For example, you can go for a couples massage and get pampered together. This is essential especially when you have children but you still need some private time as a couple. Taking a vacation to a disserted island or going for a nature walk or mountain climbing together. Or better yet, how about leaving your phones at home or switching them off and spending a night in a lodge (especially in the woods) away from all the noise and pollution in the city?
In conclusion, you do not have to break the bank for you to recreate a strong emotional connection with your partner. In fact, most of these things do not require much financial investment. Just create time for each other and engage in more activities that make you feel closer to each other. Get out of your comfort zone and try something new together or better yet, create a bucket list of things you would like to do together before you die. I’m sure that will keep you busy for a while and in the process, old flames will be reignited leading to a stronger emotional connection.
This article has been written by a guest blogger, Miriam Ndemo