Part 6 of 10 in the relationship series for long term couples.
Connections are the genesis of every relationship
When two people share an interest that is mutual, they feel a connection which fosters emotions of bonding. Connections are anything from sharing a sense of humor, to common traits or interests, and experiences. Every relationship either for business, romance, or friendship relies on support and the strength of these connections. Either way, it’s the mutual interest that draws us in and magnetizes us to each other. These forces of connection are always strong in the early phases of a relationship. They are new and stimulating so we respond more emotionally to them, and that’s enjoyable to our brains. A stimulating connection feels good because it activates a lot of our brain and that’s good for health.
Endorphin’s trigger a sense of well-being and positive response. When we look forward to something, we feel anticipation for it. That’s another positive activity for your brain as it stimulates our imagination and energy levels. Anticipation becomes motivation. That daily bit of energy you get because you are looking forward to something helps. It makes a daily workout, or healthy eating, for example, that much easier.
When connections fade, we struggle to bond
Over time those connections become well known and new one’s pop up less and less. When things become too familiar and routine, the emotional magnet is not as strong. Affection and appreciation can fall to the wayside once couples stop making connections regularly.
states, “Frequently, couples come into counseling feeling lonely and disconnected. They tell me that they don’t talk or connect much during an average day. I think this is a real issue, but their thresholds for what they consider “connected” may not be reasonable. When you’re not in the honeymoon stage anymore and instead in “monogamy,” it’s tough to feel that spark”– www.huffingtonpost.com – 100 little ways to connect intimately with your partner.
Connection with a partner is a universal desire amongst all people, and it is a blessing to those that have found it. We all want to feel an emotional attachment to someone we love. If we let our engagements become routine, we risk extinguishing the flame that once burned so easily. Hence millions of couples are seeking some sort of support for keeping our connections fresh. It’s clear to see that advice for an improved sex life is popular with long term couples.
When we make mental connections alongside intimate sexual experiences, they become emotional super-bonds
Sharing a fantasy scenario can be a creative way to experience those type of connections more frequently. Reaffirming your love for each other as you each share a new experience and grow deeper in appreciation for one another
“Play is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships fresh and exciting. Playing together brings joy, vitality, and resilience to relationships. Play can also heal resentments, disagreements, and hurts. Through regular play, we learn to trust one another and feel safe. Trust enables us to work together, open ourselves to intimacy, and try new things. By making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play into your daily interactions, you can improve the quality of your love relationships” – www.helpguide.org – benefits of play for adults
Roleplay is all about connection. Romance is all about connection. Before you became an item, your connections are what attracted you to each other. Even tho Role play is fantasy; you still get to make connections with your lover. Fantasy or not, they allow you to experience the romance that drew you together.
Finding new and creative ways to make a romantic connection is one of the joys role play. Each role play has elements of yourselves within the scenario. And that is why the benefits of role play carry into your personal lives as well. The trust and intimacy build from your connections can keep you both firmly grounded in your relationship with each other. Emotional bonds are some of the strongest forces we experience in our lives. Music stirs our emotions, and that’s why we draw to it. Roleplay can also stir your emotions, making it pleasurable to play as well. With a little creativity, you can use role play to connect with your lover well beyond the honeymoon years. We recommend that sexual fantasies be enjoyed slowly. They are most emotionally charged when they exist as a treat to share, and not a smorgasbord.